Why Waiting Too Long Can Cost You the One You Love?
When relationships break, the pain can feel unbearable. But what’s even more heartbreaking is realizing that things could have been different—if only help had come sooner.
That was the case for Steen, a Danish man who came to me for coaching after his girlfriend left him. They had shared 10 years of life together in Denmark. She was Chilean, almost 35, and had spent much of their relationship waiting for things to move forward: a marriage proposal, a stable job, the chance to start a family.
But time passed. And while she waited, he was unsure and didn’t take action.
The Silent Distance That Grew Over Time
Though they lived together and shared many meaningful experiences, there were also quiet, growing frustrations—ones rooted in:
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Unmet expectations about marriage and family
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Cultural misunderstandings and unspoken assumptions
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A lack of clarity about the future
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Her growing sense that nothing was getting better, either emotionally or professionally.
Eventually, she reached out to me first. She wanted to understand her situation more clearly, and she was beginning to make decisions about her life that didn’t include waiting any longer.
Some months later, after the breakup, Steen came to coaching. It was a powerful experience for him. He expressed deep regret and an emotional awakening he hadn’t accessed before.
“Teresa Ruiz Pedersen has really been a wonderful help. I feel that I have come into better contact with my own emotions. Therefore, I’m also starting to achieve a greater degree of acceptance of my own history. I also better understand, for example, the cultural reasons that make communication difficult. This means a lot to me and gives hope for the future.”
He finally saw what had gone unspoken for years. But by then, his partner had found someone new. She returned to Chile—emotionally and physically moving forward with her life.
Coaching Isn’t Just for Crisis—It’s for Prevention
This story isn’t about blame. It’s about timing. So many couples wait until the relationship is broken beyond repair to seek help. But coaching is most powerful when used before the disconnect becomes permanent—when silence hasn’t yet turned into goodbye.
Relationships—especially intercultural ones—come with layers of complexity:
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Differing values about marriage, gender roles, and timing
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Cross-cultural expectations around love and commitment
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Professional frustrations, visa struggles, or loss of identity
All of this can build pressure if it’s not addressed. But when couples work through these issues together, with support, they often find clarity, connection, and even renewal.
A Message to Couples on the Edge
If you or your partner are quietly struggling—or if you’re unsure how to move forward together—don’t wait until it’s too late. The cost of inaction is often love lost.
💬 “If I had known what I know now, I would have approached our relationship differently,” Steen admitted. And that insight, while valuable, came at a high emotional price.
Begin Before the Break
The Love Between Two Cultures® method is designed to guide couples—and individuals—in navigating the emotional, cultural, and relational challenges of cross-cultural love. Whether you’re struggling with unmet expectations, planning your future, or simply feeling emotionally distant, help is here.
Let’s work together before goodbye feels inevitable.
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