Many people around the world are following certain models of behavior that are encapsulated in behaviours which, in the end, leave those who practice them feeling uncomfortable with their decisions. Around 40% of them attempt to take their own lives, and many sadly reach death.

As we learned last week through the analysis titled “Educational Models on Sexuality and Their Impact on the Mental Health of Young People,” the Danish sexologist Kirsten Auken directed The Blue Report in 1968. In this report, young people were taught two different models of falling in love—one for heterosexuals and one for homosexuals. Auken basically restructured the Danish educational system so that students and future generations would learn these concepts.

a) Heterosexual Partners

• A true love for any woman could be just a casual or meaningless relationship for a man.
• If a man leaves a woman after having sex with her for many years, she should have a friend who helps her maintain emotional balance.
• Romantic relationships are not forever.
• Masturbation and ejaculation among a group of men do not necessarily mean homosexuality.
• Freedom to choose the age of sexual debut.
• Abstain from going deep into emotional matters.
• Tolerance of homosexuality.
• Free masturbation and access to pornography: photos, videos, and literature.
• Zero dramas.

b) Homosexual Couples

Dr. Auken also instructed teachers that they must explain the following ideas to Danish students about people who are attracted to the same sex:

• The feelings of love are the same as those of heterosexual people.
• Homosexual adults may feel attraction toward minors.
• Ending a relationship with an adult, if he felt pressured.

Finally, we studied the research titled “A Systematic Review of Mental Disorder, Suicide, and Deliberate Self-Harm in Homosexual and Heterosexual Individuals,” published by BMC Psychiatry in 2008. The researchers found that over 40% of participants experienced mental health challenges, including depression, anxiety, and suicidal behavior.

Here are some key findings:

• Suicide Attempts: LGBTQ+ individuals had over twice the risk compared to heterosexual individuals.
• Depression and Anxiety: 1.5 to 2.5 times higher risk over a 12-month period or lifetime.
• Substance Misuse: 1.5 times higher risk, especially among lesbian and bisexual women.
• Gender Differences: Women were more at risk for substance dependence, while men showed higher suicide attempt rates.

Today, we will review the same issue but in another country. This new study is titled “Qualitative Approach to Attempted Suicide by Adolescents and Young Adults: The (Neglected) Role of Revenge.” published by Paris-Sud University and Paris-Descartes University, Paris, France in 2014

The study involved 16 interviews with adolescents who had attempted suicide. One participant, identified as F3, shared the following:

“My ex-boyfriend F. was my first one… I was sixteen… my first sexual relationship, my first love story. It lasted three and a half years. He was my reference point because my parents are separated, my father is far away, and I have an awful relationship with my mother… He was like… like an older brother… a father. His mother was like a mother to me, and she was almost my mother for three and a half years […]. With F., I had finally found that kind of stability… but I guess it was only a stopgap, a stopgap that covered up all my problems… and in fact, when he was gone, they all reappeared on the surface.” (F3, p. 5)

The word “stopgap” means a temporary solution or measure used to address a problem or need until a more permanent or satisfactory solution can be found.

Emotional suffering in youth is often connected to broken relationships.
The testimony of participant F3 shows how a romantic relationship can act as a “stopgap” (a temporary solution) to cover deeper emotional wounds. When the relationship ends, all the pain resurfaces. This reveals how relationships without emotional structure can have devastating consequences.

Just because someone stands in front of a classroom and says it’s normal to have sex with someone in the name of freedom or pleasure doesn’t mean that you, or anyone else, has to follow that idea. The reality, backed by statistics, is that many young people end up in sexual relationships not because of love, but because they feel alone or are dealing with unresolved issues at home.

When those relationships end, feelings of rejection return. They begin new relationships, hoping things will change — but over time, they realize happiness never comes. Why? Because the original pain wasn’t in the relationship — it was in the family wounds that were never talking, understanding and healing.

In desperation, some turn to alcohol, drugs, or experience confusion about their sexual identity — but the emotional pain remains, and some may even attempt suicide.

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References:

“Vestida de Novia” by Teresa Ruiz Pedersen, pages 141-146

Qualitative Approach to Attempted Suicide by Adolescents and Young Adults: The (Neglected) Role of Revenge.” publish in 2014 by Paris-Sud University and Paris-Descartes University, Paris, France

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0096716